Voice of Reason

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Every time I read or see a well thought out piece on end-of-life decisions, it makes me want to go into palliative care medicine. Yes, I am a trauma/critical care junkie--but I also love the holistic approach and paradigm shift that palliative care provides. They are my yin/yang areas of love and interest in medicine. The ability to reach out and pull someone back from the brink---or the skill and wisdom to let go and let be when that is what a patient wants.

I think that Atul Gawande is an excellent writer and though he is a surgeon (i.e. from the specialty that probably gets slammed the most in the media with regard to these issues) he has an amazing grasp of these dichotomies.

I have droned on about end-of-life issues on this blog before, I know, but his article on the matter is a work of art as far as I am concerned. If you haven't already read it, you should. And then you should make your friends read it. And your parents. And your siblings.

I will now step off my well worn tiny soapbox. 

Engage with Grace

Things we are grateful for this year

For three years running now, many of us bloggers have participated in what we’ve called a “blog rally” to promote Engage With Grace – a movement aimed at making sure all of us understand, communicate, and have honored our end-of-life wishes.

The rally is timed to coincide with a weekend when most of us are with the very people with whom we should be having these unbelievably important conversations – our closest friends and family.

At the heart of Engage With Grace are five questions designed to get the conversation about end-of-life started. We’ve included them at the end of this post. They’re not easy questions, but they are important -- and believe it or not, most people find they actually enjoy discussing their answers with loved ones. The key is having the conversation before it’s too late.

This past year has done so much to support our mission to get more and more people talking about their end-of-life wishes. We’ve heard stories with happy endings … and stories with endings that could’ve (and should’ve) been better. We’ve stared down political opposition. We’ve supported each other’s efforts. And we’ve helped make this a topic of national importance.


So in the spirit of the upcoming Thanksgiving weekend, we’d like to highlight some things for which we’re grateful.


Thank you to Atul Gawande for writing such a fiercely intelligent and compelling piece on “letting go”– it is a work of art, and a must read.


Thank you to whomever perpetuated the myth of “death panels” for putting a fine point on all the things we don’t stand for, and in the process, shining a light on the right we all have to live our lives with intent – right through to the end.


Thank you to TEDMED for letting us share our story and our vision.


And of course, thank you to everyone who has taken this topic so seriously, and to all who have done so much to spread the word, including sharing The One Slide.

We share our thanks with you, and we ask that you share this slide with your family, friends, and followers. Know the answers for yourself, know the answers for your loved ones, and appoint an advocate who can make sure those wishes get honored – it’s something we think you’ll be thankful for when it matters most.


Here’s to a holiday filled with joy – and as we engage in conversation with the ones we love, we engage with grace.


To learn more please go to www.engagewithgrace.org. This post was written by Alexandra Drane and the Engage With Grace team.